Originally Published May 01, 2012
I wanted to share with you some exciting news. Many of you already know, but for those who do not: I’m pregnant!
My husband and I are thrilled to welcome a baby boy into our family sometime around July 15th.
I would like to discuss a little bit about the first question I am asked when I tell people I am pregnant, which is “how are you feeling?”
I have been feeling absolutely great–physically, mentally, and emotionally. The typical “roller coaster” of pregnancy I so often hear about has not been part of my experience, and I wanted to discuss that a little for two reasons:
1. To share the perspective that pregnancy is not always a painful and grueling experience and
2. To tell you what my lifestyle habits are like in case you or someone you know would like to try the same things to create a happy, healthy pregnancy.
As I will discuss further below, pregnancy, as well as other things in life, are not 100% predictable, no matter how much good advice we follow. Everyone will have a different experience, and for some, this will be related to their lifestyle habits, and for others, it may not be related to that. Again, I relate my experience only in the case that you may learn something that would be of interest or of use to you.
Here are all the symptoms I would likely have had by now, according to the popular book, What to Expect When You’re Expecting:
Food aversions and cravings
Mood Swings, Irritability, Irrationality, Weepiness
Edema (swelling of hands and feet)
Faintness or Dizziness
Nasal Congestion and Occasional Nosebleeds
“Pink toothbrush” from bleeding gums
Elevated Blood Pressure
Out of these, I felt nauseous about five times and got about 5-7 headaches. I have become a more picky eater, but not had real aversions to certain foods. The only cravings I have had were for salad and frozen berries my first trimester. I have had frequent urination lately due to the bigger size of the baby. I have had trouble sleeping for most of the pregnancy. (I asked Master Co who was just in town to do a little healing on me after class, and with about 3 minutes of work from him, my sleeping is about 80% better–yay!)
I had mood swings for about two weeks around the beginning of my second trimester. But I had stopped exercising and meditating for that period. With my first meditation after that time, and with my continuance of a meditation schedule, I have not had another one since.
I don’t say any of these things to brag. There’s no pregnancy contest going on which I am striving to win. Women live all kinds of different lifestyles and still have easy or difficult pregnancies, sometimes for no logical reason. Pregnancy is also not an area of expertise for me in my health practice or education. I cannot, with any certainty, pinpoint exactly why I have experienced what I have (or haven’t) or which lifestyle choices resulted in my being free of which symptoms, other than some more obvious ones.
I will give you my little two cents, though! Some comes from my own gut feeling, and others are some things I do know for sure, such as the benefits of exercise and meditation which apply whether you are pregnant or not. Again, I tell you my experience only so you can keep an open mind if you become pregnant in the future, that pregnancy isn’t always all misery and pain, and so that you can, if so inspired, try some of these things for yourself in case they work for you. Of course, most of the things I have done to stay healthy during my pregnancy are things I recommend everyone do anyway, and which I was doing before I became pregnant!
Whether pregnant or not, I stand by my three tenets of health which I called in a previous blog, The Triumvirate of Health. These are 1. Healthy diet 2. Exercise 3. Meditation
The Power of Thoughts and Expectation
In the case of pregnancy, I would add another specific thing to this list which I feel made a difference, and that is positive thinking. If we internalize every horror story we hear, whether about pregnancy, childbirth, or getting a tooth pulled, we are far more likely to experience the worst possible scenario, rather than the best possible scenario.
I will credit my dad with teaching me this one. We should never assume we will have a difficult or painful experience with something just because someone else did.
I remember as a child knowing I had to go to the doctor for a strep test or, in one case, to get a tooth pulled. I was very scared and crying and didn’t want to go. My dad gave me a really important talk on the fact that just because something sounds scary or you have heard your friends talk about how horrific it was doesn’t mean a single thing about what YOU are going to experience when you go through the same procedure. Not only is everyone different, but people also like to exaggerate or simply dramatize for the sake of storytelling what they went through. (I’m not saying everyone does this. But not every account is 100% accurate, and it is better if we keep that in mind.)
My dad also said if we keep a strong expectation that something will be difficult or painful, it is far likelier that it will be. However, if we instead create the expectation that maybe it will be or maybe it won’t, but another’s experience has absolutely no bearing on mine, then we have a much higher chance of having an easy experience. As it turned out, the tooth pull and the strep test were no big deal.
During my pregnancy, I happily listened to others’ experiences whether first-hand accounts or through my reading of books and the web. With any story I didn’t want for myself, I simply told myself, “that was their experience.” I thought and felt this in a 100% non-judgmental way. I was only saying neutrally that just because something happened to one person, it does nothing to increase any likelihood that it will happen to me. When I heard a story I did like and did want to repeat, I internalized it and told myself, “it will probably be like that for me.”
Our mental attitudes are very powerful. They are not 100% all-powerful all the time, however, and I am not saying that a person who had more difficulty only had to tell themselves it wouldn’t happen, and it would have been that easy. I only mention that these attitudes have an impact and increase your chances of a particular outcome. If a person, instead, powerfully feared and dreaded a particular experience, getting more and more fearful with each negative story, they instead add a few more energies going against them in creating the experience they would want.
If there was one topic I had to stay focused on, it was morning sickness. Morning sickness is experienced by something like 80% of women. Books even say your baby will be healthier if you have morning sickness. Every previously or currently pregnant woman will talk about it, as it’s a pretty difficult part of pregnancy. I didn’t like the sound of that, so I worked to program myself that morning sickness is not necessary, and it’s not necessary in order to have a healthy baby. I guess I don’t know yet if my baby is healthy, but I at least got to experience a pregnancy without morning sickness.
I have wondered quite intensely what the purpose of morning sickness is, as it happens in so many healthy women. I have come up with a guess of my own, but let me be the first to say I certainly have no idea if it’s true, and I could be dead wrong. I present it only as food for thought.
I was reading a book which was a true account of a man meeting a spiritual teacher of sorts who lived as a recluse in the woods (The Ringing Cedars of Russia). He was given a detoxification protocol to follow for three days, and included in that was consuming certain herbs that caused him to vomit.
It suddenly crossed my mind that perhaps a pregnant woman’s body intentionally goes through a detox or cleansing period to flush out toxins, waste, or negative energies before caring for and nurturing a fetus. This would make sense and serve a very useful purpose, as well as explain why babies can end up healthier when coming from mothers who went through it. I thought maybe I didn’t have it because I did a couple of detoxes last year. Again, I don’t know, but it’s a decent guess, right?
Another possible factor is vegetarianism. I read about a doctor online who puts his pregnant patients on a vegetarian diet if they are vomiting, and it works for almost all of them. As you may have read in my other posts, meat contains a lot of dirty energy. By removing this food from our diets, we are taking in less gunk that our bodies have to work to get rid of, so it kind of fits with my theory 🙂 Again, just a theory!
I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: Diet, Exercise, Meditation
If you are practicing these things consistently, you have given yourself a HUGE head start in preventing health problems and discomforts of all kinds, as well as healing from any you may presently have.
It is incredibly important to implement all three. They seem to have a compounding effect so that to get the full benefits of each, they all have to be practiced regularly. Many of us are good at one or two, and this is good, but you won’t even get half the benefit that way. It is much better to implement them all moderately than one or two constantly.
During my pregnancy, I have eaten mostly the same as I did before. I do green smoothies for breakfast 4-5 times a week and have my regular meatless fare for lunch and dinner. I have been less interested in Indian food and spicy food, but it doesn’t cause me any upset to eat it. I have just had a preference for blander food. I have been eating more sweets, but it’s more out of the cultural programming of, “you can treat yourself when you’re pregnant!” than out of any real cravings. I figure I’m still getting tons of healthy food in me the rest of the time–a little more in the “treats” category shouldn’t be a big deal.
I’m exercising about three days a week–less vigorously than before. I’m just doing 20-30 minutes on the stair stepper. I did keep running for a while, as this is my preferred workout, but it’s no longer practical. I still lift weights and it has really helped me to keep toned and not gain excess weight. I did gain about 5 pounds of fat in the first trimester, but other than that, it seems like most of the weight is connected to the baby and his direct needs than body fat.
My meditation routine feels more essential than ever to me. I am absolutely convinced that it is the reason I have avoided mood swings. Mood swings seem to be pretty much universal for pregnant women, but aside from a little bit of emotionality when I stopped meditating, I have not had any change in my mood or mental state.
Master Choa’s Twin Hearts Meditation also has additional unique properties that go even further than powerfully calming our minds and emotions. The meditation is like getting a 20-minute energy healing session, as it flushes out dirty, congested energy from the aura and chakras. It also powerfully energizes the entire energy system and physical body. I feel this is the reason I have not experienced fatigue but maintain the same energy levels I did pre-pregnancy.
If there was one gift I could give to all pregnant women (and probably all people, period), it would be this meditation. (You can do a mini-version of it for free at www.pranichealing.com or purchase the full CD at the same website.) I feel and acutely understand what regular practice of this meditation does for me because when I stop, I have about a two-week countdown before I start to feel like I’m back on the usual roller coaster of life again. The intense discrepancy between the two is really not pleasant, as it’s almost shocking to feel my sense of calm wear off. I really don’t know how I ever lived without it.
Energetically, the meditation has a regulating effect. Because of the immense downpour of spiritual energy generated, chakras that are depleted get energized, chakras that are congested get cleansed and purified, and other irregularities get smoothed out. As some of you may remember from other blogs, this is extremely powerful for our health because physical and mental health problems manifest first in the energy body before they manifest in the physical body. Energy moves and changes quickly, while our physical selves take extra time to conform and mold to our energetic blueprint. When we do Twin Hearts, we are altering and healing our energy bodies, preventing physical ailments before they start. I know that just by practicing this meditation, I have prevented small and large discomforts I would otherwise have experienced during my pregnancy.
The Gift of Self-Healing, Pregnant or Not
I have an added advantage of also being a Pranic Healer and so have been able to perform healing on myself when something came up.
For instance, I did have nausea a handful of times. Each time, I did Pranic Healing, and it went away within 15-30 minutes. Without doing any Pranic Healing, it is entirely possible that the problem could have worsened and turned into a more persistent, frequent, and severe one. The same thing happened with headaches. I had a few bad headaches, a couple of which I would call migraines, in my second trimester. I was able to heal the headache in 15-45 minutes. Due to the healing, I may have removed some congested energy and blockages permanently which may have otherwise caused headaches again and again later on. I have not had a headache or any nausea in months now.
Knowing just some simple healing techniques has saved me the trouble of various ailments as well as all the downfalls of medications which might otherwise have been taken. Many over-the-counter medicines are not safe during pregnancy anyway. Even if you’re not pregnant, why take pills, made of chemicals which toxify our bodies, when we don’t have to? Minor discomforts can be healed with Pranic Healing in the time it would take for a pill to kick in. And Pranic Healing can help prevent it from happening again, unlike the pills we are so used to popping that only numb symptoms. As an occasional guest has been surprised to find, we don’t have medicines of any kind in our house–we just don’t need them.
Soooo…. for those whom I have convinced!! 🙂 The next Level I class is being taught by Arnon July 27-28 in Bellevue. See www.pranichealing.com/events and select your state for more info.
Another note: some of you have inquired about Pranic Healing sessions—I have put that portion of my practice on hold for now until after the baby is born. I am not sure yet when I will resume sessions, but I will let you all know as soon as I do know!
My husband, Ajay, has decided to offer Pranic Healing, however. He is doing only distance healing sessions for now.
He can be reached at email@example.com. Ajay is a fantastic healer with about 15 years of experience now. He first learned Pranic Healing in India from Grandmaster Choa Kok Sui himself, and I highly recommend him as a healer.